Baseball Magic Numbers Division
Author: Baseball Bob
2 Secrets Cited By Long Married Couples That Saved Their Marriages
A great time to save your marriage is before problems begin. Treating one another as precious gems rather than ordinary rough stones is a good way to Save Your Marriage.
Think about it.
- Did you argue at length with your brothers and sisters?
- Did you show disdain of your parents by rolling your eyes?
- Did you resent a coworker whose work you had to redo?
Have you given your partner this kind of treatment? When you were head over heels in love, did you treat your spouse with impatience or contempt?
How does it come about that some of us feel we can change one another once we have a marriage license? As a business owner, if you happily court a potential customer and the customer becomes difficult, would you begin treating the customer with disdain? No, you wouldn’t. Your treatment of the client would remain cordial and solicitous. You would treat them like gold and smile all the way to the bank. The customer may well become easier to deal with as he experiences your consistent good treatment.
You may say, “Business requires this behavior.” So you would work with a tough client with skill and deference, but would not think about doing the same for your partner? The marriage vows spell out, in most cases, a way of honoring and treating one another that is even more demanding than a business relationship with a client.
My marriage counselor shared an opinion with me that dramatically shifted my paradigm of marital relations. His belief was that if each person feared losing their partner in a relationship, they would consciously strive to treat one another better.
Would you be able to treat your spouse as your #1 customer as the company owner does?
The business owner may have a professional sales and service staff that deals directly with customers, ensuring their continued loyalty. Lucky company owner – but you don’t have that luxury. You need to incorporate these roles if you wish to keep your partner close and content.
If you can make the paradigm shift I made, it will change how you relate to your spouse. A change in you for the great should bring about a good change in your partner. The law of cause and effect is in play. It is ever present. It is a power you can engage for your benefit. How? Embrace romance and its inherent magic.
Romancing your partner can change the outcome of your relationship. Visualize:
1. Your internal ‘marketing guru’ plans a campaign of romance.
2. Your internal sense of customer service will deliver.
3. Your partner is blown away, they smile, they aren’t so cranky anymore.
4. They realize they get treated better by you than by anyone else.
5. This relationship becomes something they want to keep.
Your Romance Campaign should revolve around a pre-set, unbreakable, weekly date. Dating will change over the years, as you change. As an illustration:
1. In early marriage and before children you will have the time and energy to make your dates fun and adventurous.
2. Career demands may squeeze that date down to an evening out.
3. Feed the kids early and put them to bed; then have a candle light dinner for just the two of you. (These should not be times for painting the kitchen!)
4. As the kids grow, your dates may be attending their soccer games.
5. When life is stressful, dates should be planned to encourage laughter, to build happy memories to help you pull through.
6. In later years do things that get you out with others and keep you active.
When things get hectic, you may be tempted to cancel the date. Don’t, as a habit broken is harder to begin again. A regular date night is often cited by couples who have stayed married through all the tumultuous events of life.
It can be fun to invite another couple on date night to enliven the evening and bring new perspectives. Couples who go on double dates have been studied; the result was that they feel more positive about their marriage. Having a great experience with another couple reinforces the healthy happy part of being a couple. Richard Slatcher, co-author of the study, says, “One thing that drives commitment is how much the lives of husbands and wives intersect.”
Think up ways that your partner will feel the benefit of your partnership, the experience of being your best buddy. A Date provides the perfect opportunity to show your partner how important they are to you. Plan those dates – don’t break them. If you make this part of your ‘save your marriage’ campaign, you will create a long lived relationship.
Cristiano Ronaldo – The magic Number 7 | 2011 | HD